If there’s one technique addicts have truly mastered, it’s the creation of a complex web of lies and excuses. They use extraordinary schemes to veil the addictions with stories that appear ordinary to direct attention away from the humiliation. In reality, lies and excuses are symptoms of their denial and unwillingness to conquer their situation.
It only becomes worse when nobody ever confronts these negative reinforcements. This might be because people around the addict have no idea, or they’re similarly denying the truth. If you suspect that your loved one is reliant on drugs or alcohol in the first place, try your best to filter the things he or she says. When you figure out that some of them are lies, have the courage to confront and educate the person regarding their lies. Don’t always trust them when he says, “I’m not an addict”. The following are examples of common lies and excuses that loved one use in one way or the other.
“I Need to Do It for My Social Life”
A few shots of alcohol may bring solidarity to everyone in a group and keep the fire of friendship burning, however this is not a sincere reason to participate in unreasonable excess. There are other more intriguing and safer ways to prevent isolation and strengthen bonds.
“I’m Not Hurting Anyone, So Why Should I Stop?”
The addict may not think they are hurting anyone else, but they are certainly hurting themselves. The damage brought about is not always physical, but rather addiction causes a great amount of emotional pain that can cause many friendships and relationships to fall apart. This is the real source of pain and harm for the people around the addict as well.
Depression can be a result of addiction so if someone is depressed in the first place, the problem will only be aggravated by adding alcohol and other addictive substances into the equation. Drinking or using drugs may cause them feel better in the short term but it won’t take away the actual problem or the lasting depression.
“I Need It to Function”
This argument is completely invalid. Relying on a few drinks or a couple of hits won’t make work easier. If this has been a consistent reason, now is the perfect time to tell that person that the “rejuvenating” or “revived feeling” they get after the deed will in reality take away productivity.
Lies and excuses are false justifications. These only make the situation worse and make addiction tougher to overcome. Don’t let these falsehoods and excuses turn into your existence. Ask for help and challenge the lies and excuses you hear from addicts.